That Wasn’t Supposed to Happen!

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Like my little Wonka Meme?  I made it myself!!

Ok, I know you’ve all been there.  For one reason or another, you’ve decided to plan something really special for your little ones.  Perhaps it’s a vacation.  Perhaps it’s a trip to their favorite ice cream store.  The big day arrives and you have every little detail planned.  You’ve even envisioned the perfect pictures which will come of this special day.  The time arrives…and your little one(s) decide it’s the perfect day to melt down.

How about this, it’s the big day – Baptism, birthday, first day of school.  Your camera is ready, preparations have been made and you know exactly how this day will turn out.  Just as things get started, friends/family show up with plans of their own.

On any normal day I roll with the punches and adapt to what the day brings. There are some things in life you just can’t control, right? However when it’s supposed to be a special or a fun day, it’s really just a big kick in the pants when things don’t go as planned!

Allow me to share one of my woeful tales. Back in April, my Son had a day off of Kindergarten in the middle of the week. It was a scheduled break and I had the full day planned out. The weather was terrible so it was a great day to spend indoors. I was going to make a special pancake breakfast for the kids, followed by baking cookies. I had some fun snacks picked up and was going to treat them to an afternoon movie. That morning my kids woke up in very foul moods. Neither one of them wanted pancakes! When I said we were going to bake cookies they could not agree on the type we were going to make. I said we were going to make both of their favorites and even then they fought with me! After lunch was over they were so riled up that they eventually crashed hard. An afternoon movie was replaced by an afternoon nap. While the kids were napping I sat down on the couch and the only thought that entered my mind was “Really???”. If this had been yesterday the kids would’ve behaved perfectly fine. But no!!!! They had to pick a fun filled day to act up. Oh well, whaddaya do?

Good days gone wrong really used to bother me quite a bit. A part of me would actually feel insulted that my good intentions were met with bad behavior or other people who wanted the day to go differently. Now that I’m a tiny bit wiser, I know that things are bound to happen and if you go into your day with no expectations at all, you can’t be let down! Don’t paint the perfect day before it happens. Let the picture paint itself and I’ll bet you’ll be surprised by the results.

 

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Happy Mother’s Day!

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Well I had an absolutely wonderful day today!  I’ll bet you’re wondering what I did.  Lunch at a fancy restaurant?  Our for a shopping spree? Afternoon at the spa?  Not even close.  I did absolutely nothing!  What’s that?  You’re shocked?  Don’t be!  This Mother’s Day couldn’t have been more perfect.  You see, my little family is quite busy throughout the week.  There’s school for my Son, swimming lessons, Beavers, band, play dates, chores around the house, errands to run and grocery shopping.  It’s only after my children go to bed for the night that I get a chance to sit down and relax.  Today I got to do exactly what I wanted – Nothing.

My kids and I spent most of the day in our pajamas.  They delighted as we watched a few Mother’s Day cartoon specials on TV and even a couple of movies!  Watching TV all day is a definite no-no in our house so this was a real treat for them!  Beds remained unmade until about 2:30pm and after they were made, my Mom joined us on the couch for a movie.  Rather than battle half the town for a meal at a restaurant, Mom and I decided to have a nice barbecue with my favorite – BBQ hamburgers!

This was also the first Mother’s Day where I got something from one of my kids that was exclusively from him.  Each year, I always get cards from my children but they are bought by my Husband and he helps them prepare and sign the cards.  This year, my Son made a card for me all on his own in Kindergarten and today he was so proud to present the card and a beautiful homemade flower to me.  My Daughter got a little upset at first, but my Son quickly noticed and added “This is from the two of us”.  That made me so proud!

I don’t need a fancy dinner, gifts or anything like that to have a good Mother’s day.  All I need is my children.

I would like to take this opportunity to wish all of you Mothers out there a Happy Mother’s Day!  Whether you’re a Mom, a Step Mom, the Mom of a fur baby or even like a Mom to someone…you all deserve to have a great day.

Life is Happening Right in Front of You – Are You Watching?

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How about this?

Yesterday evening, after putting my two children to bed, I happened across a moving video and I would like to share it with you (in case you haven’t seen it already).  The video is called “Look Up” and you can view it by clicking right HERE.  Don’t worry, it will open up in a new window!  Go ahead, check it out now (but come back!!).

In case you haven’t seen the video yet or plan on watching it later, this video was created by Gary Turk.  As of today, since being posted on April 25th, the video has 17,117,289 views and counting.  In this approximately five minute feature, Gary speaks about the downsides of cell phones and social media.  He tells the story as if it’s a poem and truly…it hit home.

I admit it.  I’m one of them.  There have been times when my family has sat down to a nice meal and, rather than engage in conversation, I would be seen checking Facebook on my cell phone.  There have been times when I’ve played a game on my phone while my children played blocks in front of me.  I admit it…and I feel terrible for it.

Do these things happen all of the time?  Definitely not.  However I really want to make an effort to ensure that these instances don’t turn into bad habits.  After watching the video last night, I went to bed and thought about what I had watched.  I silently promised myself to put the phone away while my children were up during the day…to look up.  Today that promise was kept (easily I might add!) but in looking up, I really got to see what this video is saying.

While at swimming lessons tonight, I took notice of how many parents were actually watching their kids.  Not counting myself, of the nine parents on deck, only two were paying attention to their children.  Everyone else were engrossed in their cell phones.  I could hardly believe it!  I remember when I was young, my Mother had me in swimming lessons and I was constantly glancing at her to make sure she was watching my awesome swimming techniques.  I felt bad as I watched several kids try and get their Mom or Dad’s attention to show off a dive or something…but nobody looked up.

The video goes on to say that social media is making people unsocial…that cell phones are turning people into robots.  Do I necessarily agree with this?  No.  I enjoy social media!  Facebook (while annoying at times!) is a wonderful platform for keeping in touch with family and friends who live away.  However, do people need to check Facebook every half hour to see what their friends are up to?  Most definitely not.  That’s borderline crazy!  As for me, after the kids are in bed I don’t mind logging on for a bit to catch up with some of the people in my life.

As for cell phones, I have a motto I use with my kids – Phones are tools, not toys.  I don’t allow my children access to my phone.  Some parents do, and that’s fine for them.  I don’t judge people.  I believe cell/smart phones are wonderful tools.  One of the most important thing my phone does is allow my Husband to be a part of my children’s lives when he’s away at work.  My Hubby works away for months at a time and he misses so many things – birthdays, holidays, etc.  With the help of our iPhones, he’s able to see some of these things.  Though away at work, Hubby was able to watch as our Son was initiated into Beavers.  It meant a lot to them both.

As a Mom, my iPhone has many apps which make my life a little easier.  It carries my grocery/shopping lists, it helps to play music in my vehicle during long road trips and it also gives me great new healthy meal options to try.  Like I said, a wonderful tool.  However that doesn’t mean I have to hold it in my hand constantly.

Don’t make the mistake of missing out on life.  Don’t let your kids miss out on life.  Put the phones down and put the computers away!  Don’t just “like” life, get out there and LOVE it!

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My Day Starts After Tetley Tea O’Clock

ImageI don’t know about you guys, but I am the furthest thing from a “morning person” there is.  I know many people who say that mornings are their best time of the day…that it’s the time when they are most energetic.  Early bird gets the worm and all that, right?  Well not for me!

If I jump out of bed before giving myself some time to really wake up, it totally messes me up for the entire day.  I’ll end up feeling dizzy, nauseated and downright cranky.  If you toss my kids into that nasty mix, things never end well!  I consider myself to be a caring and loving Mother, but I’m sorry, this Momma doesn’t punch in for the day until I’ve had my cup of Tetley tea.  No doubt most of you are coffee people, am I right?  Can’t start your morning without a good ol’ cup of Tim’s coffee or perhaps a cappuccino? 

The picture I’ve posted today pretty much sums up what a morning conversation is like with my kids when they go crazy before I’ve had a chance to wake up.  They’ll wake up all bright eyed and eager to start the day, come into my room and blurt out “Hey Mom!  Let’s have a morning snuggle!  What are we gonna have for breakfast?  Are you going to the store today?  What’s for supper?”  To which I respond something along the lines of “You…boy…with the face…stop bugging…your…girl person…who’s related to you.”  LOL!  I know, pretty bad right?

I wish I had an eighth of my children’s energy and focus in the mornings.  Until that time comes, bring on the Tetley!